समय बदलता है,भावनाएँ नहीं!!😢😢

उसकी घबराहट भी जायज़ थी,आखिरकार वो वक़्त आ ही गया और बचपन से सुनी बात सच होने वाली थी।माँ का बात बात पर यह कहना की “बेटा जहा जाओगी वहा ऐसा नही चलेगा”, दादी का यह कहना की “बेटियां बनी ही दूसरे घर के लिए होती है” हर बार ये बातें सुनकर वो हँसकर, सरारत भरे मन से कहती थी देख लेना माँ मैं कही नही जाउंगी और दादी को यह कहकर सतना की मैं गयी तो आपकी कहानिया कौन सुनेगा।

लेकिन आज ना उस चहरे पर वो मुस्कराहट थी और नहीं उन नज़रों में वो शरारत, था तो सिर्फ डर, एक अजीब तरीके की घबराहट जो वो किसी से नहीं कह पा रही थी और नाही ख़ुद समझ पा रही थी।

माँ बाप पर तो पूरा भरोसा था और यही वजह भी थी की उसने बिना कुछ पूछे हामी भर दी, लेकिन उन पर भरोसा करना जिनके नाम के अलावा वो कुछ नही जानती नामुमकिन सा लग रहा था।

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घर में ख़ुशी का माहौल था, पापा क चेहरे पर एक अलग ही संतुष्टि थी, माँ थोडा परेशान थी आखिर में बचपन से उन्होंने ही तो मेरी हर अनकही बातों को समझ है लेकिन पूरी तरह से खुश दिखा रही थी ताकि मुझे परेशानी से दूर रख सके।
रिश्तेदारो का ताता लगा हुआ था,कोई नाच रहा था, कोई गा रहा था, तो कोई अपने डिज़ाइनर कपड़ो की डींगे हांक रहा था।
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पुरे तामझाम के साथ लड़के वाले बारात लेकर दरवाज़े पर पहुच गए थे,एक तरफ उन बैंड बाजो की आवाज़ और एक तरफ मेरे दिल की धड़कन, मनो जैसे दोनों ही एक दूसरे को कम्पटीशन दे रही हो। आप भी सोच रहे होंगे की आज क मॉडर्न क ज़माने में कहा ही ऐसा होता है, पर मेरी मानिये लडकिया पहले भी घर छोड़ती थी और आज भी उन्ही रीती रिवाज़ों के साथ घर को छोड़ना पड़ता है, वक़्त बदलता ज़रूर है,तरीको में भी बदलाव आता है,लेकिन अपने घर के लिए एक लड़की का प्यार कभी नही बदल सकता।
25 साल की पूरी ज़िन्दगी को पीछे छोड़ के जाना,भला वक़्त के साथ आसान कैसे हो सकता हैं। माँ बाप के प्यार को वक़्त और मॉडर्नाइजेशन के तराज़ू पर कैसे तोला जा सकता हैं। माना की आज लडकिया हर फैसले खुद ले सकती हैं,लेकिन ये भूल जाना की इन फैसलो को लेने के लिए उनके माँ बाप ने ही तैयार किया हैं, ताकि आने वाले समय में वो पुरे स्वाभिमान के साथ जीवन बिता सके।
किसी लड़की के इंजीनियर होने से,डिज़ाइनर होने से, डॉक्टर होने से भला उसकी भावनाओ औऱ उसके व्यव्हार का क्या लेना देना।
वो बड़े सहर की है तो बदतमीज़, उसने टैटू कराया है तो मॉडर्न, उसने हेयर कलर कराया है फैशनेबुल, अब आप ही बताइए की ये सब बातें कहा से एक लड़की के कैरक्टर को जज कर सकती है।
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लोग टैटू पहले भी कराते थे (तरीका सायद अलग हो),पहले के ज़माने में बालों की खूबसूरती के लिए लोग मेहँदी लगात थेे,शौक पहले भी थे ,अब भी हैं,फर्क है तो सिर्फ तरीको का।
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ऐसी ताकियानुसि भरी सोच से निकलने में ही भलाई है।

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PS: don’t generalize the things, because exceptions are there and trust me our society is still lacking in many aspects.
Secondly,it is nothing related to feminism,because I better know the definition, so please do not walk up with the stupid comments.
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***as always feedbacks are must***
** Thank you for reading**
**weekend thought,an instant one**

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Love_never be predicted😍😍😍

She was neither disappointed nor dissatisfied, but she was uncomfortable and a little losted.She is contented with her life,she has got all the luxuries and enjoying her lavish life.
It’s been 3 years now, and still she has that bareness in her heart.She cannot speak her mind, no you are getting wrong,no one is stopping her but she is unable to build that connection, you know that spark, yes, that spark is missing.
The girl who being the most loquacious once,she barely speaks now.She is decent and organised in present.
Leggings has took over the ripped denims, kurtas over crop tops, gold and diamonds over antique jwelleries,straighten hair over messy one, high heels over sneakers and most important responsibilities over her lazy attitude.
She is not complaining,and the best part is she has adapted the environment marvelously.
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It is going to be the togetherness of 4 years now, and unfortunately she forget the day.She simply woke up and headed to get freshen up. She was wiping her face with towel, and suddenly saw something strange.

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She: Are you really proposing me, on your knees and giggled?
He: Will you be mine forever?
She: giggled again, come on, we have already exchanged the ring four years back.
He: But that was arranged marriage wali ring, and I never asked you to be mine.I seriously do not want stamped paper partner, I am looking for heart to heart connection , my love.
She: blushed, hugged him tightly and whispered sorry I forget that it is our aniversary, well thank you for the surprise and I will cherish it forever

Rain_monsoon_special😍😍

Excitement was at its height,after all he is coming to her town after so long.She has planned number of things and she wanted this meeting to be the best.

She reached early,to pick him up, their eyes were glued on each other faces.She was little nervous and he must be too,but he is expert in hidding his expressions.

He took a step forward, hugged her ,pecked a kiss on her forehead and said “please,don’t get nervous I am the same guy to whom you talk endlessly on the phone” and she burst out into laughter. He teased her again and said “your laughter has assured me that I hugged the right girl, not a random one in this crowd”
She hit him softly on his stomach with her elbow  and said “chalo ab,you must be tired and also the cab is waiting outside”

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He: What is the plan? I mean when I can catch you?
She: Anytime!
He: winked** really anytime.
She: blushed** I mean to say, I am free till the time you are here,I have applied for the leaves in the office.
He: feeling privileged.
They reached the hotel, he holded her waist, planted a kiss on her cheek and whispered in her ears “evening 6 pm, be ready on time and you are looking way more beautiful than your pictures” and he left.
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She also reached her destination and recalled all the instances till evening.
She was ready in a beautiful flared red dress with the contrast accessories. Her heels, red lipstick and sharp eye makeup was endorsing her beauty. She can feel those butterflies in her stomach and after so many years, she understood what actually love feels like, she was so confident about her luck and her hapiness.
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She heard the horn and ran in speed of light to see him.He was also ready to kill that evening. She was thinking in her head that her little boy is a complete man now. Combination of black shirt and blue denim was making his personality more royal. A tall guy,with a good build and a decent yet sexy voice is more than enough to make any girl die for.
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He made her comfortable in the car and they reached her favourite restaurant in the town.He ordered everything of her choice from his starred list and tried his best to made this meeting the best one.

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They both stepped out from that place and saw heavy traffic on the road. He asked the guard anxiously   “kuch ho gya kya bhaiya yha”
Guard: sir barish ki wajah se bahut jyada waterlogging ho gya hai aur ab lagte hai ane wale 4-5 ghnate tk jaam ka khul pana mushkil hai.

They looked at each other astonished and he said mischievously ” no one can save you from me now”

She look at him with all her innocence in her eyes and stood blankly there.

He left her hand and went inside the restaurant, ordered two coffee and returned with the same.

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She: Where you went?
He: handed over the coffee to her,and asked her to sit on the stairs.
She: Are we going to sit here entire night?
He: Do you hate me or hate spending time with me?
She winked and said well I do not know but thank you for the coffee though.

**and they both laughed**
**unplanned things are always the best**

Intuition!

She was well up on to the fact that whatever going on,whatever happening around her,her happiness, her unstoppable laughter, it is all the sign of lul before strom.
She has full trust on her intuition and on her gut feelings.
The consistency in her life was hitting her hard,and why not, there is nothing good happened with her in past years.Trusting on her own happiness and peace is really difficult for her and she has a fear of loosing it all in a flash.
Storm is here and that flash was about to take an action.
That night was really horrible for her and thrown her in deep fear.Well, I cannot call that moment sad because all her past experiences has made her strong enough to accept these things easily but  fear of tolerating those instances again is still there in her mind.
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His all of the sudden and instant decision of continuing  his life alone is the storm this time.She tried her hard to convince him but failed.The worst thing is she has no idea of the reason that what makes him doing so. She do not want to live in the perceptions again.She do not want to float in the pool of unanswered questions again.
She tried to cry hard,but this time even her tears left her alone.
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She was sitting ideal on the chair with her coffee and her phone beeps.She checked ,and it was from him written “You and alcohol,both are harmful for me” and she replied “living without you is more harmful than that”
He send a happy emoticon and said “Your gut feelings and intuition are not perfect than me”and she took a sigh of relief.”

#not_every_story_of_mine_has_sad_ending
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Trending app_sarahah!!

Well,the most trending app is hitting the youngsters, because of its anonymous feature.Being a religious user of this till date, I noticed some of the points on this as “thank you for your honest feedback” , “leave a constructive message” & the most creative yet funniest “our server is overloaded with the honest people”.

Before giving this app a start,my mindset was completely prepared for feedbacks,either positive or tactful criticism as it can be in any of the form.

However,we hardly received any feedback, rather than people are walking up with their desperations, ‘n’ number of proposals and last but not least bullying.

Let’s start respectively, stop being road side romeos because anyhow whoever sending these messages,they themselves know that it will not help them out.

There after,proposals,dude any sensible girl is not going to be impressed and you have already lost the match.Moreover, you are loosing your chances.

And the most abrupt and disgusting one is bullying.First let me clear hatred and bullying, both the words have thin line between them.Hating someone is a human psychology; every individual hate someone,may be for a particular reason or may be for any of the obnoxious reasons.But in bullying, you are simply representing the atmosphere and the environment in which you were born and bought up(may be it sounds blunt and could be hitting your family values, but what you guys are doing is not anyhow remarkable) .

If we will analyze ,the people, who are using this app they may be the college guys, or the corporate people, and both the crowd are moulding their future.

First,learn the use of the app, that what it is meant for.Second,for the users, just think are you really looking for the feedback or you just wanted your inbox to be flooded with innumerable praising.

Why I  am saying about the learning of app, because we are the one who will later come with the criticism. Well,don’t we know that every coin has two sides.

We are the one who are utilizing the same and don’t you think that the generation who are using this needs to be more sensible.

Being funny, playing prank with friends are all good but hurting, annoying and bullying are not the part of feedback.

Positive feedbacks and tactful criticism are most welcome but don’t bully because not everyone is a strong headed person and not every one has smooth life.You don’t even know that what the person would be going through to whom you are sending nuisance and may be that particular has really installed this application for feedbacks and suggestions in order to get over the things.

PS: It is any how not related to me,and I know the people who will read, some of them will laugh, some of them will criticise and some of them will obviously say ” ki itni problem hai jisko wo install mt kre” but well, it is just about individual’s growth and you are just revealing your intellect and personality through that stupid and silly messages.

Happy using!!
Enjoy!!!
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Bidding bye!!😢😢

It is not easy & well it was never easy, whirpools of emotions,with all the excitement of entering into the new world she was packing her bag, her new dresses,cosmetics, purse,footwears and especially mom-made food.
With all the tiredness she lied on the bed and all of the sudden she realized that this is the last time she is sleeping in her cute relaxing hub,yes her room,where she has made lots of memories, all her exam preparation, late night conversations with her beloved on this bed,she dealt with her breakups in the same room,and you know it is not just a room,sometime it is her happy place and for sometime it is her battle field.
And today is the day when she has won all those battles but what about the happy place!!
Isn’t it tough to leave it!😢😢
But why she is sad,afterall, since childhood she was working hard for this independence only, for her own identity only.
But what about the identity which  she always got as being daddy’s princess and mom’s world.😢😢
No,she is not a coward but yes, she has a fear of loosing her innocence.
She wants to be responsible but she never wanted to be a lonely girl in a strange city.
She always wanted to explore the world but she will always miss those day outs with her family.
And from now onwards no one will be there to open the door on the ting tong of the bell, because she has to live alone.
Perhaps,the time has come when princess’ has to leave her kingdom…😢😢
&
Perhaps, the real battle is on the way…😢😢


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PS:16th June 2015
Well, I thought that it was a journey from Lucknow to Delhi,but I was completely wrong,actually that day bought the real struggle.😢😢

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Identity💝💝

And that night , sky full of star and a full moon day.She was sitting in the terrace and silently admiring the beauty of nature. Sipping her coffee,looking at the star gazed sky she was just figuring out something, something that is hitting her hard from so long.

It is true, nature is the answer of all the mess, flow of river, the enlightened sun, the brightness of moon, those twinkling stars,how easily they unveils the beauty of everything, no words nothing but it soothes your heart.
One question, why can not human be like this, why can not they give a fair answer, and this is where you can find the difference.
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He is her moon, the brightness of her life,but is he justifying this title, does he ever be able to make her world shine like this or he will just treat her as the stars surrounding and chasing the moon.
She wants to be his sky which is giving moon ,the space to spread the light and bring brightness and people sitting there praising the moment , moon for unveling the beauty of sky.
Yes ,she wants this kind of relationship with him where people admire her but because of him.No she do not want to loose her identity, because she wants to make him as her identity….
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💝💝There could be nothing beautiful more than this where both of them stand for each other for the entire life💝💝

Why not!!

After all moon is doing the same for his sky from an era…😘😘

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She did not find the answer this time,but have you noticed atleast nature gives her a motivation to make their love forever and set an epitome.Meanwhile she got courage to give real justice to this word where every second person is simply degrading the beauty of this word.

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👌👌Love like this👌👌
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